As we know from formal and informal policy and practice in urban and rural communities throughout the US, the people that are targeted, who will be stopped, monitored, questioned and searched are brown. No one else. And I will not stand for it. And this state action, for me, is inextricably linked to state actions regarding same sex marriage. How can we, ethically, as a community ask for state recognition of queer marriage, from any U.S. state, when states like Arizona openly endorse white supremacy? I won't do it. I am tired, as a brown bodied, Black, queer woman of being asked to choose between race and queer status. I will no longer support seeking state recognition to marry my girlfriend while my brown sisters and brothers are legally--LEGALLY--allowed to be questioned about whether or not they belong here. Arizona is Mexico, my friends, let's not forget. And Mexico, like the U.S., is Native land. These questions are moot. And LGBTQ folks need to take a stand against this questioning because we are subject to the same scrutiny, the same questioning.
Marriage will not guarantee us equal rights, or human rights in this country. It hasn't. We will not be protected in other areas because we are legally married. And the small perks that go along with marriage are not enough. We can still be targeted in the workplace, on the street, in our homes, etc.
But I don't need the state's recognition.